I agree with Poppy Blossom’s earlier post. I also wanted a say in the design of a ring that I was supposed to wear every day, but we went about it a little differently. Lotus dude and I had previously talked about marriage in a casual fashion. This was years before we got engaged. At that time, I mentioned to him that I wanted to be able to choose my engagement ring if he ever decided to propose.
Well, thankfully he remembered that conversation. But, he still wanted me to be surprised when he popped the question. So he proposed with a “placeholder” ring and let me know that we could choose the “final” engagement ring together. We went to see a jeweler that could arrange for custom rings. We had several discussions with her about what we were looking for, and six weeks later, I had the perfect engagement ring.
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I always wondered if brides ever disliked their engagement ring. Thankfully Poppy Dude, a preppy-polo wearing-east coaster, knew he shouldn’t pick out my engagement ring considering I am more of an alternative-California-individualist. He left that up to me. So I went out and picked my own engagement ring by myself months before he proposed. I knew it was coming, but had no idea when.
Do you think choosing your ring makes an engagement less romantic or would you prefer to choose your own ring?
I used to think wearing an engagement ring and/or a wedding ring was more of a symbol to cue other people to your marital status than anything else… and then I temporarily was without my engagement ring…
Last weekend, I accidentally left my engagement ring at my future in-laws. Since I knew I’d be going back to their house (an hour and a half drive away) the coming weekend, I didn’t think I would have a tough week or anything.
Boy, was I WRONG!!! I literally felt naked for the entire rest of the week without my ring. I wear earrings almost every day and claim that I feel l naked with bare ears, but this was intense compared to that. No joke.
As engagement rings, both Calla Lily Dude and I wear simple sterling silver wedding bands on our right hands, which is a tradition from his Chilean heritage. We plan on upgrading to white gold before the wedding and we’ll switch the bands to our left hands during our ceremony after we exchange vows.
I spent this entire week looking at his hand thinking how much I love seeing a ring on his finger and the meaning behind us wearing engagement and eventually wedding rings.
I don’t think I realized how much my ring symbolizes to me until I didn’t have it on. I would look down at my naked hand and long for my ring. Engagement and wedding rings really are more than just pretty pieces of metal, they are lasting and visible symbols of love!
Obviously, my advice would be to NOT lose (or temporarily misplace) your ring… and to get it insured!
