November 12th, 2012 by Orchid Bud
Before I get into this post, I need to tell a story. Not a long one, I promise. Call it my “attention-getter.”
A couple of years ago, I went to the wedding of a family friend.
It was a beautiful wedding. Wonderful colors, gorgeous flowers. The church looked stunning. And then the ceremony started. It began with a picture slideshow. I promise every last one of you, Garden: I am not exaggerating this next sentence at all. Their slideshow was forty-five minutes long. Yes, that’s right. Almost an hour! It started out normal enough. Baby pictures of both of them, pictures of them growing up, the occasional embarassing pre-teen snap shot. But eventually, they started throwing in random pictures. Pictures of them together, pictures of them with random people I wondered if even they knew, 30 pictures of the bride with completely random people and 30 pictures of the groom with completely random people. It just kept going. What’s worse, the music wasn’t wedding related or romantic or sweet and loving at all. I swear, they were just playing top 40 songs for the majority of the video. Before then, I had always been in favor of the pre-wedding slide show. But after that? Not only did I hate them, I absolutely refused to have one in my wedding.
Onto the actual post now, when the Joker and I started to plan our big day, the slide show discussion came up one day between Mommy Joker and Orchid. I said there would be no slideshow in our wedding, and they both looked at me like I had kicked a puppy.
“But…you have to have a slide show,” Mommy Joker said, actually looking sad at the idea there wouldn’t be one in it.
Mommy Orchid agreed, and when I reminded her of the 45-minute-life-story we witnessed years earlier, she hesitated. Then, the two women gave us a compromise: one song each. Not even the whole song, if I didn’t want to. But just enough for maybe 30 or 40 pictures. After some discussion, I decided I was okay with this. Because after all, not everything in our wedding is about us brides, is it, Garden? One song each was a nice compromise because it meant our mommies got the slide show they wanted, but we could keep it short like I wanted. But I especially loved the idea of a slide show, when I realized it was yet another opportunity for the Joker and I to be unique on our big day because there was a special twist we could add to the slide show that no other bride and groom does.