Round one: Initial trying on. Stress level = low. Thoughts of dream dress coming to life.
Round two: Hello, Kleinfelds. Randy – I heart you, and the dress you chose for me. Olive Mom and Olive Family aren’t sold.
Round three: Leave Kleinfeld’s empty handed. Research cheaper options of the dream dress. Make new appointment at Kleinfelds. Stress level – getting higher.
And now – finally – I can say that after the last trip to Kleinfeld, I happily bought the dress of my dreams. Did I do the research on other, similar styles and try them on? Absolutely. But – the winner that Randy picked for me was the dress, and nothing else ever seemed to compare to it.
Olive Mom and I went to Kleinfeld alone, which I think was a great idea. Olive Mom had kind of warmed up to the fact that the dress of my dreams probably wouldn’t be what she was originally envisioning for me. So, she decided it should be her who would compromise – and I should get what I wanted. And I love her for that. [Quick sidenote - we heard TWO other mother/daughter shoppers disagreeing on what type of dress they should wear. Guess it's a common theme between modern brides and their more traditional mothers!]
She took a bunch of pictures of me like a proud mama would once I told our consultant we were purchasing – and I even managed to get a few tears when I thanked her and said I truly felt like a million bucks.
So – what did I learn from this process? To go with your gut. I’m still early in the planning but have gotten a bunch of things done and find myself sometimes second guessing my decisions. [Did I pick the right photographer? Should I have tried on more dresses? That DJ was good, right?] If we constantly worry about every decision we are going to make during our engagement period, we will seriously drive ourselves (and future husbands, and MOH’s, and friends) nuts. Everything works out the way it is supposed to, and your gut instinct is normally right. I mean heck – how many of us can say we had a gut feeling when we met/kissed/fell in love with our Dudes that we knew they were the one? I know I can.
I know that the wedding dress search is one of the funnest aspects of planning and one of the biggest parts of “the day” as a whole – but man – I did NOT know that there would be a 3-part – ahem,- ‘saga’ – that would be surrounding my pick.
Well, she looks relaxed.
For those of you who did not read my last post – here is a brief synopsis: I’m at Kleinfeld’s, Randy (love!) recommends a dress for me that is at the peak of my budget, I try it on anyway, I fall in love, I walk out of the room to meet my mini-entourage.
I wish I could say I was surprised by the fact that Olive Mom and I had different tastes in what we liked/disliked about certain gowns – but I did have a feeling that this would happen. To say enough so that you get my gist without completely giving away what dresses I liked – it boils down to a core disagreement. Olive Mom is a huge fan of embellishments in the form of sparkles, lace, etc….while Olive Bud is, well, not.
I’m not against embellishments (see this post about how I actually thought I changed my mind about them in Round 1) – but the dress I had on happened to have none. And I loved it. And I didn’t care. However, Olive Mom, Olive Grandma, and Olive Aunt were not so keen on this dress. To them, it looked plain.
The tell tale sign that it is late on Sunday night in the Olive Household would be me, curled up in my bed, watching episodes of Say Yes To The Dress in marathon form. I’m not ashamed – the show is great.
Needless to say, my addictive behavior towards this show only amped my excitement for my own bridal dress appointment at Kleinfeld. Who would my consultant be? Would I meet Randy? Would I say “YES”?
The answers: Someone not on the show. Yes. No.
Olive MOH, Randy, Me!
I brought along Olive Mom, Olive Grandma, Olive Aunt, and Olive MOH to Kleinfeld with me. My initial thoughts were that all of the opinions would be completely helpful. My leaving thoughts were that although I enjoyed having them all there – I did feel as though that number of people put added stress on my ultimate decision. Just saying.
When I first got engaged, Olive Mom let me in on a well-kept secret she had been hiding from me. Her good friend, let’s call him Mr. Style, is not only an up-and-coming wedding dress designer, but he also has a close, personal relationship with the owners of Kleinfeld’s in New York. To say that I was ecstatic when learning I would have my appointment to try on dresses there, and with them, would be the world’s largest understatement.
While that appointment is slowly approaching (it’s the first weekend of August), Olive Mom and I also went to a few local bridal stores a few weeks ago. Olive Mom knew how excited I was to go to New York, so she wanted me to be able to have a basic idea of what dress style and fabric I liked beforehand so I would not be completely overwhelmed by the bridal mecca that is Klienfeld’s. It was a WONDERFUL idea.
Let the search begin!
Here is what I learned:
1. Try on everything. While my gut feeling was to go with a fit-and-flare or mermaid shape with no straps, I tried on almost every silhouette when I went shopping. I wanted to make sure that what I thought was the most flattering in my head actually was on my body.