Just wanted to ask you ladies about how you incorporated your theme into your bridesmaids’ attire? Our theme was a rustic, fall wedding, and I think the dresses, down to the jewelry fit so perfectly.
My girls and I went to several dress shops before we found the dresses, turns out it was a little shop down the road where we did find them. I have a bridal party of 8 ladies, so of course not each style falls perfectly on each figure. They ranged from 5’2 to almost 6′ tall and of course varying sizes. The dresses we chose were almost exactly the same, minus little details here and there. I chose a cocoa color for the dresses and matched them with a nice, rustic ivory lacing, which were laid differently on each dress, perfect. To compliment the dresses. I bought the girls pearl necklaces and matching bracelets.
After seeing the beautiful dresses, I decided to sunflowers to complete our look. What would a fall wedding look like without a pretty pop of color?
I’ve talked and talked and talked about my girls. My princesses. My bridesmaids. And they deserve to be talked about! They put up with me through my indecisiveness, when I probably was a little too picky, when I tried to choose the right flower, shoe, color and song for every moment of my special day. They were total troopers, and I love each and every one of them so much.
So, I would like to show them off. Here are my girls!
My Princesses! From left, Cinderella, Belle, flower girl Tinkerbell, Junior Bridesmaid Aurora, Matron of Honor Rapunzel, Ariel, and Jasmine!
There they are! My lovely princesses! In their beautiful dresses we picked here. In writing this post, I’m going to talk about something I’ve wanted to the entire time I’ve blogged about my wedding: talk about how I know these lovely ladies.
I know some time has passed since my wedding, but I still cannot forget the impact nine women had on me–my bridesmaids. I know, that after the wedding, I haven’t seen them all every day, or even every week for that matter, but I know that I will always have a bond with each of them.
They were the support system that a lot of people could not even imagine. Maybe they aren’t my blood sisters, well one of them was, but they are closer to me than more than half of my blood family. Whether it was the silly, simple things, like picking out dresses and jewelry or maybe addressing invitations and whether I should use cocoa or mocha or the intense things, my sister and I got into a huge tiff, and she threatened to leave the wedding party, but my bridesmaids were there. There was always a shoulder to turn to. Always a listening ear. These bonds become more true when you start a new phase of your life, and they are at your side, literally, cheering you on. I could never imagine a world without each one of them. When you ladies begin to choose your bridesmaids, do not take that decision lightly. It saddens my heart to see some women have to kick out or have ladies drop out of the wedding party.
I just recently took part of a “Bridal Challenge” on Instagram today. Day 19 was bridesmaids gifts. I began to picstitch the photos of the gifts I bought these special ladies. I even had another friend of mine comment on what a giving and generous bride I was. All I could say was, it was the LEAST I could do. These women have done so much for me; I could not even begin to repay them with a necklace or a survival kit. They just mean the world to me, and I had to take the time out and tell you ladies this. Don’t get caught up in this planning too much where you forget to say thank you.
My bridal shower was thrown by my sister/MOH and bridesmaids. It was a complete surprise and turned out fantastic. They know I have a fondness for Alice in Wonderland, so all they did was class it up a little, and it turned out to be the perfect theme. My sister also set up a ton of games for us to play, including lingerie limbo. They tied new lingerie to a broomstick, and we limbo-ed! Plus, I got to keep all the goodies! Also, that whole toilet paper dress game, I thought I’d hate it, but it turned out to be pretty amusing. I’ve upload some photos here so you can see!
A little advice–make sure you have your guests mark off on the registry what they bought you. A few things weren’t marked off, and we got three sets of dishes! Yikes! Thankfully, it was an easy exchange. We basically have a brand new kitchen now, I’m very lucky!
I wanted to give you a sneak peek at my beautiful bridesmaids and where I found my inspiration for their look. I first came across Project Wedding long before I was engaged. It’s a great wedding web site to research all kinds of details about your big day and also provides a great bridal forum to discuss and get opinions from other brides and newlyweds. I stumbled upon a bride whose wedding truly inspried me. Here’s the bridesmaid photos from Jamie’s wedding that I used for my inspiration:
I knew I wanted those deep, dark red roses for the bridal party bouquets and black dresses. I chose a long dress style which I think looked beautiful!
Photo: Erwin Wijanto Photography
And these are my beautiful bridesmaids from right to left: Amanda, Emilia, Adrienne, Christina, Tasha, and Jess
LOVE the bouquets, aren’t they gorgeous?
My mom took the pictures above of my bridal party. We haven’t received our professional photos back yet, but when we do, I’ll be sure to share!
So, call me over-involved but I’m always keeping up with my bridesmaids about my bridal shower, bachelorette party and other wedding related events. I don’t want anything to be a surprise first of all (lol) and second, I’ve been in two weddings myself where things have happened two different ways. One bad, and one was pretty good, so all I want is to make sure everything goes smoothly and everyone is staying involved.
I was in my cousin’s wedding and the maid of honor did next to nothing while the rest of us planned everything, and then I was left to be the hostess and speak at the shower and bachelorette party because no one else felt comfortable talking in front of people (grumbles). The other one, the maid of honor made decisions and pretty much did everything herself (as far as I know) so I literally just felt like a wedding guest and not a bridesmaid.
With that being said, I really just wanted everyone in my bridal party to be involved. I knew it was more of a fantasy, but now I’m having “regrets” (is there a not-so-ugly word I can use instead?) about who I chose to be in my bridal party. My experiences with the weddings I’ve been in and talking to other brides is that everyone has that “one bridesmaid” who doesn’t do anything, complains about how much things cost or is never available to get together with the other bridesmaids to plan things. The reality of it is that I’m just not as close with this bridesmaid as I used to be. I barely see her maybe once every three months and while I know I shouldn’t have asked her to be a bridesmaid to begin with, I felt guilty and did anyway. I hate hearing my bridesmaids complain about her, but there isn’t much I can do because I know they are right. To be honest if she wasn’t a bridesmaid, she probably wouldn’t even be on the guest list either.
With that being said, has anyone had “that bridesmaid” that you grew apart from during the wedding planning process? Or the one that your bridesmaids all complain about? If so, how did/do you deal?
After being engaged for a month or so, I was itching to begin my first DIY project and stop living my wedding through Pinterest. And even though, back when I got the idea for my bridesmaid cards it was only February, I was getting a little impatient to ask my future bridesmaids if they’d stand up with me on my big day. I wanted to do something cute and creative, and also give them a little something fun to open in the mail. So while browsing for inspiration on one of the many wedding blogs I visit on a daily basis, I came across the cutest
idea ever (that I could pull off from afar). Inspired by Anna of Rifle Paper Co
. (my all-time favorite stationer/designer, whose work makes me smile every time I see it), I knew what I had to do.
Before the reveal, let me just say that this was a love/hate project. I LOVED the idea and how it eventually turned out, but after finishing my first card, I sat there, overwhelmed at my large bridal party. You mean I have to make SEVEN of these??? Good grief. From start to finish, I completed the project in about four weeks. I’d sit down for an hour, cut out the paper doll chains, and then stop for a few days. Then I’d cut some dresses, maybe some hair, and then stop again for a few days. I could’ve completed them much more quickly, but I had plenty of time to get them done, so I just saved myself the stress.
For my first couple of posts, I thought about giving back story on the Joker and I. How we met. How he proposed. All of that. And while, yes, that all WILL come, I didn’t want to lead with that. I worried if the first couple of entries were all just back story and nothing to do with the wedding at all, you guys might get a little bored. But I will show you my ring, since everything started with that in the first place!
Personal photo, taken from my cell phone.
Here it is! The food in the background IS a little bit of a hint to the story. It happened at a party! But more on that later. I love it soooooo much and think Mistah J did a VERY good job of picking it all by himself.
Anyway, instead I thought I’d start with a bang. Instead of starting with the most important question I’ll ever be asked, I thought I’d start with one of the most important questions I’ll ever ask: how I asked my girls to be my bridesmaids. And the reason I’m starting with that one is because I thought it would be super cute that for my first REAL post (not just introducing myself), I would blog about my first Wedding DIY Project!
Oh you bet there’s more…
When I was in high school (5 years ago) I had a group of girlfriends that I swore up and down I would be best friends with forever. We were inseperable. Now, 5 years later it’s definitely changed. Between going off to college, jobs, and changes in lifestyles, I’m only still close friends with one of those girls. Now, I’m not the social butterfly of the world, by any means, but I’m also not unfriendly. The college that I went to was a commuter college, and I was a commuter myself, which made it difficult to make and keep friends.
Fast forward to today…when I’m trying to plan my wedding and I only have two female friends that I consider close enough to be bridesmaids. All of my other friends are either boys or I’m just not close enough to them to feel comfortable asking them to be in my wedding. Now, I would be completely fine having only two bridesmaids, except for the fact that Violet dude has about 5 guys in mind for groomsmen. This creates a bit of a number problem.
Everything from deciding on a wedding party to what they would wear to Lilac Dude finally asking his best man was a bit stressful. Please note that our friends do not stress us out, we just had some interesting choices to make.
My bridesmaids were originally to be: my sister, my sister-in-law, my good friend from high school and my good friend/roommate from college.
That didn’t happen…. more accurately most of it happened.