It occurs to me that I have never mentioned the amazing community of girls I met throughout my wedding planning process and how much of a support system they were (and still are) to me. Back when I started planning, I downloaded just about every Wedding Planner and Organizer app on the planet. I went through them within the week and kept only a major few. Of course, you need a countdown app, a mobile version of your Wedding Website app (if there is one), a guest list app, an app leading to your registries, and one very important and helpful app, the Bridal 911, if you will, a community forum app for brides-to-be.
Now I used this app for EVERYTHING. From which line sounded better on my invitations, to me and my fiancee having a huge fight and I needed some words of wisdom. I put my faith and trust into a group of strangers, and it worked out so well. Of course, there are some ladies out there who are only out there to cause some trouble and to meddle into others problems with ill intentions. BUT if you can seed out those ladies, you can find other great ones. There was a small, but solid, group of ladies that continually showed me their support, including telling me in the nicest way possible to leave Sunflower Dude alone and stop over reacting.
I began planning my wedding almost two years ago now, and I am still in touch with some of these lovely ladies. In fact, we are quite the bonded group from Facebook to Instagram. I finally have such a great support system of girls around the globe. I hope to one day meet these ladies and thank them properly.
I advise you ladies to reach out for help when you need it, there may just be a helping hand waiting for you on the other side of the globe through that little screen on your phone.
I started writing for Bridal Buds way back in January of 2010. I chronicled a journey of wedding plans, hassles, projects and finally showed you photographic evidence that the Lilacs had indeed tied the knot in more than 125 posts. I also shared with you the beginning trials of our marriage. I had planned to share thoughts looking back at our engagement, wedding and now a whole year of marriage. But life has done what it does best, it takes you forward into your future and often doesn’t leave time for writing about it.
I have recently abandoned drafts on some pretty important topics, so let me share just a few thoughts with you before I say a not-so-final goodbye.
- Life changes when you decide to share it completely with another person. You become a different person, whether or not you change your name, you get a shared identity. It can be stressful, but when you’ve tied your life to the life of an amazing man, it’s wonderful.
- You make adjustments. We didn’t live together before we got married, so not only did combine our things, we combined our lifestyles and learned how to share in a much bigger way than you did in preschool. Shopping lists, finances, home decorating and traditions merge together with some bumps along the way. The way they all come together is what gives your new family a unique identity.
Good News! I found my wedding dress and put a deposit down to get it ordered! Yay!
The funny part is, in my recent post, I talked about how I knew which one was “the dress” and guess what? That actually wasn’t the dress I ended up picking out! When I first decided to go dress shopping, it was literally the week after MGB and I got engaged. I went just for “fun” to kind of see what was out there, while still keeping in mind I had a little bit of time before I needed to order a dress. At that time we also had not nailed down the venue, even though we had an idea of where we wanted to have it.
Our wedding on September 17, 2011 was the most amazing day of my entire life. Now that it is over, I have been trying to recap the weekend but I just can’t seem to find the right words!
Our wedding was absolutely fabulous! Thanks to amazing wedding vendors and supportive friends and family, every detail turned out better than I could have ever imagined!
What people say is true!
A) Relax, it goes by so fast!
B) Don’t forget to eat small meals throughout the day!
C) Drink a lot of water!
D) Forget about eating and drinking at the reception, you will be talking to guests!
E) Have tips prepared in labeled envelopes!
F) Things will go wrong! Although, some of them will turn out better than expected.
Is it just me or do you find it extremely annoying when you get bombarded by vendors you’ve never inquired from? For those of you who just got engaged or have not yet, this post will help you save countless voice mails, emails, and phone calls from bombarding vendors.
When I first started wedding planning, I would give out my information to vendors like no other through bridal shows and websites that had listings for music wedding bands. I thought, why not..it doesn’t hurt right? Yea, it doesn’t hurt, but you’ll just end up getting annoyed by so many vendors trying to contact you to get your business. A lot of times, they won’t just contact you once and hope for you to call back…they’ll call you at least 3-4 or more times until you call them back.
I would like to think I was a good Maid of Honor to my sister. I think that if you asked her, she’d agree.
But as a bride, MOH, sister and friend I had so many different perspectives on Lilac Sister’s wedding day that I would like to share with any MOHs out there.
Toasting my sister the bride. Photo by Lilac dad
Anything that can go wrong will, is totally true. The bride and groom may not be the picture of health on the wedding morning and you have to deal with it, that may mean force-feeding the happy couple bananas or supplying Asprin.
I read an interesting article on vanguard.com entitled “Why spendthrifts and tightwads marry—and what to do when they do“. The reason it was interesting to me is because Periwinkle Dude and I have different spending habits; sometimes different from each other and also sometimes different from ourselves in different scenarios. I wouldn’t say either of us is a “tightwad” or a “spendthrift” 100% of the time, rather we are varying degrees of those categories, in comparison to one another.
There was recently an article in the New York Times that I wanted to share with the garden. It’s long and refers to some findings and studies from the 1800s that are somewhat outdated, but there were a few good takeaways that I can appreciate as well. As critics of this research warn, correlation and causation are not one in the same. So please keep this in this mind while reading my outtakes below.
Source: New York Times