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Garden, I really feel like I complain a lot! The truth is, I haven’t had many DIY things that I want to share before the wedding and wedding planning is stressful as it is.
Remember me and my bridal party woes? Well, a bomb has been dropped. With almost a month to go…my Maid of Honor has dropped out of my wedding.
You all remember my invitation fiasco with my dad? Well, now I’ve got another piece of paper decision to make.
Originally I said that I wanted to do ceremony programs and have these pretty fans with our pictures on it since our ceremony would be outside in September. Well, in true “I’m not even engaged yet” fashion I didn’t realize how much these sort of things cost. The deal I had with my parents was that they would pay for the big things (a.k.a. catering, dress, invitations, etc) and if we wanted any details we had to pay for that stuff ourselves. Which, in all honesty is nothing compared to what they are shelling out for our wedding. I tried to spread my purchases out so I wasn’t trying to buy everything at once, which I have done pretty well with but this one last purchase is one I’m still debating.
With under 40 days to go, I just can’t decide if it’s worth wasting the paper on a program. Our ceremony will be less than 30 minutes long and is not in the church. I’ve been to three weddings already this summer and none of them had programs. Yes, I’ve saved money by finding people on Etsy to design me printable items that I can do myself. The only part I was really looking forward to was having my bridal party and our parents formally mentioned on the program. I haven’t mentioned this to my parents because I really don’t want to start a war over something trivial, so I’m hoping everyone will be so busy the day-of that no one will notice.
So, do you think programs are worth the extra money and paper?
While I have already had one wedding nightmare…some of you may remember this post about my online ribbon-buying nightmare (by the way, I finally got all my ribbon…seven months and one VERY angry bride later) I actually had a real nightmare last night about our wedding.
In my dream, every single aspect of our wedding went wrong. The bridesmaids were people that I knew from high school, but not my actual bridesmaids, and they were wearing the wrong dresses. My dress had a HUGE stain. My hair came uncurled after a freak hurricane-force windstorm. My jewelry fell apart. And did I mention that our wedding was taking place at a convention center where there were about 10 other weddings going on at the same time?!
At one point during my dream, I left the bridal suite I was
freaking out getting ready in to go find my mother…who proceeded to yell at me for leaving my hair down and letting it come uncurled. While I was walking around in my dress, a huge percentage of our guests saw me and (understandably) looked appalled at my appearance.
Finally, Violet Dude’s alarm went off and woke me up from my terrible nightmare. The sense of relief I felt when I woke up was astounding. Knowing that every aspect of my wedding hadn’t gone wrong was comforting and Violet Dude reminded me that the wedding is still a year away and that everything is going to be perfect.
The point of this post was to not only tell you all about my horrible wedding nightmare, but to remind all of you that the stress of a wedding can cause some pretty crazy dreams (I even had nightmares when I was the MOH in my friend’s wedding last year about things at her wedding going wrong!) The best part is that, while we all know that inevitably SOMETHING will go wrong during the wedding day, that our weddings will not be nearly as bad as my dream (or at least, I really hope that isn’t possible)
Has your wedding planning invaded your dreams?
So who hasn’t had their mini-freak-out yet, realizing all they still had left to do?
Mine was about a month or so ago. I was three months away from our wedding date and the thought of all the little details that hadn’t been taken care of got to me. Literally heart racing, chest tightening anxiety! Well, my remedy was… making a list!
I’ve been really lucky because a huge reason why we chose our venue/caterer was because it came with a day-of coordinator, planning website and everything included into one “per person” price. Meaning the open bar, cake, appetizers, champagne toast, seated meal, etc. were all one price. None of the tricky stuff like, ”oh, well to add this to the menu costs $10 more person”, “It’s $8 per person for a champagne toast” or “we charge $7 per person to cut the cake” so Garden, I have to admit I feel quite guilty for getting flustered over little details. I’m not a details person when it comes to my wedding, but the little things like the guest book, escort cards, card box, ring pillow, cake topper, etc had not been purchased!
My advice to brides or really anyone that has things to do and can get stressed easily thinking they haven’t done anything, is to sit down, breathe, and make a list! This saved my sanity. I keep that list in my calendar that stays in my purse, so whenever I do finish something I just cross it off! Just make sure you do it far enough in advance that you aren’t having to buy everything all at once. Wedding Wire has a great list on their website as well!
Did you make lists for your wedding? Did it help in the long run? Share your stories!
It has been three months since Rosebud Dude proposed, and I keep thinking where on earth does the time go? Looking at the time for the planning of our wedding, we still have 13 months to go which seems like a really long time, but still….I can only imagine that it will continue to fly by.
So to date, I have done so much searching on the internet for ideas for my wedding but haven’t really set anything up, I keep thinking with the nice summer weather that we need to start getting some engagement pictures taken and need to book a venue…but really where do you start? When are you supposed to do certain things like submitting an engagement picture to the paper? Save the dates? Wedding invites? Start going shopping for bridesmaid dresses?
With so much time on my hands, I keep wondering to myself if there is some sort of master list that is there for guidance for brides-to-be. Turns out, there are MANY!!!!
So although this has been an overwhelming thing for me these past three months, I took to the internet and scoured for an idea of some sort of checklist. There are many checklists available for brides-to-be, but looking on our WeddingWire website, I also was able to find an ap for my iPhone that has been extremely helpful so that I can find wedding information on the go.
I am a structured/detailed person (Rosebud Dude most often refers to as OCD) and having tools such as a timeline and app to go off of is critical to my sanity as a bride-to-be. Not sure if there are many other ladies like myself out there but I would assume that I am not alone by the number of sites that I found regarding this subject.
So, call me over-involved but I’m always keeping up with my bridesmaids about my bridal shower, bachelorette party and other wedding related events. I don’t want anything to be a surprise first of all (lol) and second, I’ve been in two weddings myself where things have happened two different ways. One bad, and one was pretty good, so all I want is to make sure everything goes smoothly and everyone is staying involved.
I was in my cousin’s wedding and the maid of honor did next to nothing while the rest of us planned everything, and then I was left to be the hostess and speak at the shower and bachelorette party because no one else felt comfortable talking in front of people (grumbles). The other one, the maid of honor made decisions and pretty much did everything herself (as far as I know) so I literally just felt like a wedding guest and not a bridesmaid.
With that being said, I really just wanted everyone in my bridal party to be involved. I knew it was more of a fantasy, but now I’m having “regrets” (is there a not-so-ugly word I can use instead?) about who I chose to be in my bridal party. My experiences with the weddings I’ve been in and talking to other brides is that everyone has that “one bridesmaid” who doesn’t do anything, complains about how much things cost or is never available to get together with the other bridesmaids to plan things. The reality of it is that I’m just not as close with this bridesmaid as I used to be. I barely see her maybe once every three months and while I know I shouldn’t have asked her to be a bridesmaid to begin with, I felt guilty and did anyway. I hate hearing my bridesmaids complain about her, but there isn’t much I can do because I know they are right. To be honest if she wasn’t a bridesmaid, she probably wouldn’t even be on the guest list either.
With that being said, has anyone had “that bridesmaid” that you grew apart from during the wedding planning process? Or the one that your bridesmaids all complain about? If so, how did/do you deal?
Garden, I want to talk about something that bugs me. And I’m gonna do my absolute best not to rant. I don’t want to complain. I don’t want to come across as angry. I have just picked up on an attitude that really bothers me and I want to set the record straight about it. Other brides have talked about this before, and when I heard them complain about this I agreed with it whole heartedly, even though I hadn’t dealt with the issue myself just yet. Well, Garden, I have dealt with it now, and I can say they were absolutely right. Every. Last. Bride.
It all started with a cake. A cupcake cake to be precise. Mommy Orchid loves the idea of having a cupcake cake be the wedding cake. It’s a very popular idea these days, and she thinks it’s hip, modern, fun, and best of all easy. Now, to be honest, I don’t really care either way. As I’ve said before, I’m a recovering fatty. And we fatties love cake. Whether we have a more traditional wedding cake or a cupcake cake is fine with me. As long as it’s a cake, I’m happy! However, as a bride who is all about making her wedding guests happy, I could see the pros to doing a cupcake cake. It’d be much easier to do several different flavors, so I could please a whole bunch of people with different tastes and opinions on cake. Plus, Mistah J and I have some friends who are vegetarians and vegans. Not many, I’d say thirty or less. But if we did a cupcake wedding cake, we could order a small amount of vegan friendly cupcakes, that way even they would be able to partake during dessert time of the reception! So while I really don’t care what kind of cake we have at our reception, (like I said, recovering fatty. Love cake.) I can definitely see the good points to having a cupcake cake.
Don’t you love when things are going smoothly and then *smack* something becomes a bump in the road?
MG Bear and I are totally fun and goofy people. With that being said, the fact that we’re having an early evening wedding is a way for us to dress up and be classy for a few hours while still being our goofy selves. One way that I wanted to express “us” as a couple was through our invitations. I believe in “traditions” but at the same time this is our day so we’re willing to throw any of them out the door at any given moment!
MG Bear and I picked out something totally us, with our wedding colors in it that was light and funky, but still professional looking. See below for an example from the website:
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Garden, I beg your forgiveness. My first finals week of graduate school is now over and the grades are in, unfortunately for me those grades took about four weeks of preparation, which is why I haven’t been blogging as of late. I won’t write a long blog about how sorry I am, but I will write about how these last five weeks have taught me about balancing.
My first semester of graduate school was hectic enough as it is, throw in there that we just moved to a new apartment (with a half-an-hour drive added on to our commute time to get to school and work) and the fact that I’ve been (trying) to wedding plan and trying to be a newly engaged bride-to-be and you’ve got one crazy stressed out Violet Bud.
Violet Dude and I have lived together for a little over 2 years. I have mastered cooking, cleaning, and (attempting to) keep up with the laundry. Unfortunately, I mastered all that while getting an undergraduate degree that was significantly less time consuming than my graduate degree. So, even after five months of being a grad student, fiancee, and home maker, I’m still not very good at it.
Well, we are exactly three weeks out for our big day and the wedding stress is certainly kicking in. My to-do list just keeps growing. Sometimes I do something, write it on my list and immediately cross it off just to keep like I’ve accomplished something. We are finishing up collecting RSVP’s which leads me to completely feel like this:
I’ve been documenting all my little projects I’ve been working on so as soon as all this craziness is over, I promise I’ll post everything!