Hello Garden! It’s been so quiet around here lately, where is everyone?
I came across these adorable wooden cake toppers while browsing on Etsy and had to have some! I placed an order for our one year wedding anniversary, which we celebrated on November 2, 2013. Charlene from Creative ButterflyXOX creates the cutest wooden cake toppers, and they are completely personalized! Not only did I have Ryan and myself made, but our little Maltese pup Sophie too!
I sent our wedding pictures and close up shots of Sophie and Charlene was able to make us into little wooden people. They look just like us!
Make sure you check out Charlene’s shop here. These are great for the day of the wedding or even to celebrate anniversaries!
I have been married now for a little over the six-month mark, and I am starting to need some more ideas on what to post! Is there anything that you soon-to-be-Mrs. want input about? Perhaps just a little bit of experience? And for those currently Mrs., what do you find yourself posting about most now that the big day has come and gone?
Share your ideas in the comments below!
Hi Garden! I wanted to share with you our Christmas card this year; it’s special of course because it’s our first Christmas as a married couple! I poured over 3 or 4 web sites and their cards before I decided on a design from Minted. I really like how they have cards specifically for newlyweds and quite a few designs to choose from. They also have great customer service and are very efficient; I highly recommend them!
Special thanks to our photographers, Paul and Leanne of Sargeant Photography for the great shot!
I hope you all have a blessed and safe Christmas with your family and friends!
I’ve been a bad Blossom lately! I love blogging, and I am always looking for new things to blog about. Well, ever since I got married in September I have been extremely uninterested in blogging about wedding related things!
It’s so strange because like every girl, I was so excited for a wedding, and I figured the feeling would always stick even after I got married. Well, not so much! I unsubscribed from all the wedding blogs I followed, I unfollowed all the wedding inspiration boards on Pinterest and unsubscribed from wedding related emails. EVERYTHING wedding related is gone!
WHY Garden, WHY?!?!
Well, I’ll admit that the week of the wedding I was totally over it. I’m not sure if it’s common among brides, but I was so tired of answering questions, planning, re-planning and accommodating everyone else that I lost total interest. For example, I had a slight dilemma with my table numbers the day before and in total opposite fashion of Morning Glory Blossom, I picked the easy way out and settled for something not-so eye appealing, and it didn’t bother me. I said “Whatever! No one will notice or care.” The day before the wedding and the day of, I was calm, cool and collected which is SO not me. I’m always freaking out at the last-minute, getting mad about something or taking it out on MG Bear (poor guy). So, it was an odd thing for my friends to see me so relaxed. My professional pictures have been in for almost a month now, and I still haven’t done anything with them and thank you notes–don’t even mention thank you notes! My office at home is an absolute mess with after wedding things I keep putting on the back burner!
So, my question is, am I the only one? Was anyone else totally over their wedding before it even happened? Or totally over all wedding related things after? I pinky promise to get more posts out soon since my pictures are done!
Something that I have seen a lot of lately (Since there’s been 6 weddings this year that I have already attended or plan on attending soon!) is mishaps with couple’s registries.
I have to admit that when we initially got engaged last year that the first thing that we did after booking the venue was register for gifts. It’s one of those exciting things you can do as a couple and most men don’t mind it too much since they are allowed to pick out stuff too. The only problem is that couples get a little “trigger happy.” You know, when you go to a place like Bed, Bath and Beyond, and they give you the little scanning gun, and you stroll around merrily with a BEEP here, BEEP there, BEEP everywhere until you cover the whole store.
The problem is that most couples don’t actually look at their registries ever again (unless you are OCD like me). Recently, I visited a friend’s registries, and she pretty much had double everything on each registry, which led me to write this post to give advice to newly engaged ladies and those planning a wedding. Here are a few key items to remember when registering:
- Keep it simple – Think practically about what you need before you register just for what you want.
- Variety – Make sure you have different price ranges on your gifts because not everyone has $100 to blow on one item.
- Keep up with your registry after the deed is done – I don’t know how many times I’ve seen couples get double of the same thing because they registered for similar items at different stores!
- Make sure there are enough items available in store - If you added items to your registry online, make sure there are a decent amount available in store for those last-minute shoppers.
- Double check to make sure items aren’t discontinued - You’d be surprised how often this happens and couples have half their registry unavailable because items were either seasonal or inventory changed.
I have to admit that I did register for a Kitchenaid Mixer for $359 hoping that someone who loved me very much would buy it. Well, they didn’t. One thing to keep in mind is that yes, registering for gifts is a chance to ask for things that you wouldn’t normally buy yourself or spend the extra money on, but it’s also not considerate to have a large amount of the more expensive items on your registry. We ended up taking the gift cards we received to purchase our bigger ticket items which was great! Our only problem was trying to find somewhere to put all of our new kitchen items! Cabinet space is limited, so we had a lot of re-arranging to do! Another thing I also suggest is donating your old items or free-cycling them to someone who could use them!
The biggest piece of advice out of everything I’ve written about is to keep up with your registry! You will end up less frustrated in the long run when you don’t have to return a bunch of items!
Let me start off this post by saying this: the boys get off SO easy when it comes to marriage! They really aren’t required to be full-fledged into wedding planning, they don’t have to deal with groomsman drama and most importantly the biggest pain – changing their name on EVERYTHING! All they really have to do is show up!
A lot has changed (at least in the state that I live in) when it comes to getting married and changing your name. I’m going to warn you that it is all very overwhelming! I got lucky in the fact that my MOH got married 2 months before me, so I basically knew what all had to be done.
The first thing you should know is, you will NOT be able to get all of your name change errands done in one day. Just get it out of your head right now! I figured one day off work would be good, but no I’ve been married for a month and it seems like I haven’t made much progress. Here is a prospective list for you of what you need to change and the order in which to do it.
Before I start, let me warn you that you should keep an original copy of your marriage certificate with you for all these errands! It will save a lot of headache!
1. Social Security Administration: This is definitely your first stop. My experience was pretty easy, I was in and out in 20 minutes, but I’ve heard it depends which area you are in. You will get your card in the mail within a week, so that puts your name change at a standstill until then.
2. Work: This includes federal and state tax forms, (don’t forget to change your filing status to married! It will get you a few extra bucks in your paycheck.) which need to have the same name as what’s on your Social Security card because IRS is really cracking down on people having different legal names than the name on their paperwork for income taxes. Funny story is that my mom has been married for 30 years and two years ago the IRS just told her she had to change her name at SSA if she wanted to get a tax return! Also, you will need to go to Human Resources and ask for name change forms.
3. Insurance: Whether it be through work for health insurance, car insurance, homeowners, etc. make sure you do this ASAP. Some companies will just change it when you say you are married, but some may ask for ID or at least a copy of the marriage certificate to be sent in, so call ahead of time to ask what you need if you are like me and like to get as many things accomplished in one sitting! Also, for health insurance if you plan on picking up your husband or he picks you up on his plan it HAS to be done within 30 days or you have to wait for Open Season which is generally in the fall, but doesn’t take effect until January 1st. P.S. A small tip: Make sure to change your status to married on your car insurance and add your husband (if he’s not already on the policy) because your payment goes down! Mine went down $30 a month!
4. MVA/DMV (aka the dreaded license change): In my state, you are now required to bring a certified copy of your marriage certificate to change your name on your driver’s license. They will make you sit there until your number is called and then laugh at you when you say you don’t have a certified copy of your marriage certificate (as you fill up with steam because of all the time you wasted). This means you have to go to the courthouse in the county or city where you got married and pay a small fee for them to “certify” your marriage license and give you copies. Luckily for me, MG Bear is on shift work, so I got him to go during regular business hours to accomplish this task. Make sure to go to the website for your local Motor Vehicles Administration to see what rules your state has for name changes due to marriage. It will save a lot of headache.
5. Any place that doesn’t require formal paperwork to change your name: Aka the gym, tanning salon, doctor’s offices, etc. I’ve been doing this as I go in, but it’s something you can definitely do over the phone all in one day and it’s pretty easy. You can actually do these right away if you want that giddy feeling when someone asks you what your last name is!
6. Banks/Credit Cards: This has been a royal pain for me. I have my bank that I use on a regular basis, the bank I have my mortgage with and then two separate credit cards companies. The banks require that you come in person with photo ID and your marriage certificate to change your name, which of course, I have a 9-5 job and of course, there are no branches near my work. Sigh. More time off work. My mortgage and credit card companies were easy enough, but with owning a home comes the fact that the title and deed to the house are in my maiden name which supposedly is okay to stay the same as long as when you sell the house, you have your marriage certificate to prove the name change. This is something that will probably be a headache a few years from now.
7. Passport: If you had a passport in your maiden name, this is easy. For me, I had never had a passport and was told to wait until after we were married since we aren’t going out of the country until January. To make a long story short, more time off work. You also need a lot of paper work. Birth Certificate, photo ID with married name, marriage certificate and application (coincidentally, the most of any name change duty) and most post offices require an appointment, so don’t pull a ‘D’OH’ moment like me and take off work to do this only to find out that you can’t even get an appointment in that day. Sigh.
Luckily, I haven’t had a lot of problems but that might be because my maiden last name is now my middle name making it easier to prove my name change. I know for some people, changing your last name is exciting, and you want to do it the second you get married, but my suggestion is to wait until you get all the forms you need and to make a list of what you need to get accomplished and when. I wish I had done that to begin with because now I am scatter brained and trying to put the pieces together as to what I still have left over to change!
So, September 15th has come and gone. Everyone kept asking me during the wedding if I was sad or happy that its all over with and at the time I didn’t feel either way. I was happy to be married and what would come in the my future with my husband. I am always meeting new people through MG Bear and I was happy that now he could introduce me as his wife. I definitely wasn’t sad because to be honest a week before the wedding, I was completely over the whole wedding planning thing.
Well, we got back from our mini-honeymoon, and I went bed that night and cried like a baby. MG Bear tried to comfort me and tell me there was so much more to be excited for, which I know, but I tried to describe it all as being similar to post-partum when someone has a baby. All the planning that’s done for a year (or more for some) is all over with and so many brides are left with the, “Now what?” feeling.
I went to Social Security to change my name and got emotional all over again. I’ve been known for so long by my maiden name (everyone called me by my last name) that thinking about no longer being Morning Glory Bud and now being Morning Glory Blossom hit me pretty hard. I felt like I was losing my identity, so to speak. After talking to my cousin, she went through the same thing and said it was a completely normal feeling. I ended up comprimising and making my maiden name my middle name, which didn’t make my mom happy. I’m more attached to my maiden name than I was to my middle name, so I did what made my feel comfortable!
I am now Morning Glory Bud Blossom, if the reference makes sense to you all! It made me feel like I was able to maintain my identity while still embracing my husband’s last name!
What are your plans for changing your name? Have you gotten emotional about it? Tell me I’m not the only one!
I can’t believe that Olive Dude and my wedding day was almost a month ago. As I’m sure most people who are married can attest to, it was by far the quickest night of my entire life. I would give anything to be able to relive every moment of the entire weekend!
When we first got back from our honeymoon, I was drained. I didn’t want to clean up our house, start the thank-you cards, or do any of the things you’re “supposed” to do right after a wedding. The one thing that I did have to do (for stain removal purposes) was take my dress back to the tailor and have it cleaned and preserved.
When I handed my dress over to the tailor, she told me that in four weeks I could come back to get it and it would be preserved in what looked to me like a rather large shoebox. I don’t know why, but this sounded so unbelievably depressing to me. I loved my dress. I knew the whole day it was a one-time-wear, and to savor every moment in it. But the thought of it being banished into a box to never be seen again until (maybe) I have a daughter and beg her to wear it just made me really sad.
I started looking for ways to honor my dress and of course turned to Etsy. I was amazed to find that there are tons of extremely talented artists who will sketch your dress into a fashion sketch from your wedding pictures.
Sketch by Dreamlines on Etsy
Sketch by Dress Sketch on Etsy
I absolutely love this idea and can’t wait to get one for myself. I am going to frame it and hang it in my closet to honor my amazing wedding dress that will be in an oversized shoebox, somewhere on the ground.
How did you preserve your favorite parts of your wedding?
Garden, I want to talk about something that bugs me. And I’m gonna do my absolute best not to rant. I don’t want to complain. I don’t want to come across as angry. I have just picked up on an attitude that really bothers me and I want to set the record straight about it. Other brides have talked about this before, and when I heard them complain about this I agreed with it whole heartedly, even though I hadn’t dealt with the issue myself just yet. Well, Garden, I have dealt with it now, and I can say they were absolutely right. Every. Last. Bride.
It all started with a cake. A cupcake cake to be precise. Mommy Orchid loves the idea of having a cupcake cake be the wedding cake. It’s a very popular idea these days, and she thinks it’s hip, modern, fun, and best of all easy. Now, to be honest, I don’t really care either way. As I’ve said before, I’m a recovering fatty. And we fatties love cake. Whether we have a more traditional wedding cake or a cupcake cake is fine with me. As long as it’s a cake, I’m happy! However, as a bride who is all about making her wedding guests happy, I could see the pros to doing a cupcake cake. It’d be much easier to do several different flavors, so I could please a whole bunch of people with different tastes and opinions on cake. Plus, Mistah J and I have some friends who are vegetarians and vegans. Not many, I’d say thirty or less. But if we did a cupcake wedding cake, we could order a small amount of vegan friendly cupcakes, that way even they would be able to partake during dessert time of the reception! So while I really don’t care what kind of cake we have at our reception, (like I said, recovering fatty. Love cake.) I can definitely see the good points to having a cupcake cake.
Garden, I beg your forgiveness. My first finals week of graduate school is now over and the grades are in, unfortunately for me those grades took about four weeks of preparation, which is why I haven’t been blogging as of late. I won’t write a long blog about how sorry I am, but I will write about how these last five weeks have taught me about balancing.
My first semester of graduate school was hectic enough as it is, throw in there that we just moved to a new apartment (with a half-an-hour drive added on to our commute time to get to school and work) and the fact that I’ve been (trying) to wedding plan and trying to be a newly engaged bride-to-be and you’ve got one crazy stressed out Violet Bud.
Violet Dude and I have lived together for a little over 2 years. I have mastered cooking, cleaning, and (attempting to) keep up with the laundry. Unfortunately, I mastered all that while getting an undergraduate degree that was significantly less time consuming than my graduate degree. So, even after five months of being a grad student, fiancee, and home maker, I’m still not very good at it.