April 26th, 2012 by Violet Bud
So I have yet another confession to make. I had our date picked out way before Violet Dude proposed to me. Like…we’re talking a year before he proposed to me.
In my own defense, I had pretty good reason for doing so. With both of us being full time students, and with the understanding that I was planning on going to grad school for my Doctorate for three years, I had to find a date that would work for both of us. We knew that we both wanted at least one of us to have a steady job when we got married…and since I’m going to be in school until December, 2014…that person had to be him.
We have been incredibly fortunate because Violet Dude was offered a five-semester paid co-op during his undergrad education at an AMAZING company. When he graduates, we’re keeping our fingers crossed, they’ll probably offer him a job and he’ll be able to start working the May before our August wedding. When we decided on a date, we knew that him having a job was important so that he could have health insurance and I could be transferred to his insurance when we got married. Being in a health-care related grad program, it’s mandatory for me to have health insurance and it’s a lot easier when I can just transfer from my parents’ to his in one easy transition.
The second part of choosing our date came when we had to look at the calendar for my grad program. I knew that I would be going to school full time, summer, spring, and fall semesters with very few breaks to have a wedding and honeymoon. Initially, I was concerned that we were going to have to have a winter wedding and I didn’t want to do that. So, we went to the calendar and tried to find a date that gave us enough of a break to have our wedding and honeymoon without rushing.
Thankfully, the second summer that I’m in grad school, I’ll be doing my first clinical rotation for the entire summer. It’s 40 hours a week, but there isn’t any homework and there are no tests…which means my evenings are mine and they can be dedicated to working on wedding stuff. The other perk was that my clinical rotation will only last for 10 weeks out of the 12 week summer, meaning I’ll have an entire month off between summer and fall semester. Our wedding falls smack-dab in the middle of it. (And we didn’t even plan that part…I didn’t know about the extra two weeks until I started school!)
So, even though I had looked at the calendar and had the date picked out before he even popped the question, it made it a lot less stressful in those first few weeks of our engagement to have a date picked for when people asked us.
Did you choose your wedding date before you were even planning your wedding?