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Engagement Photos: Getting A Camera-Shy Groom In Front Of The Camera

March 3rd, 2011 by     

My fiancé, Apple Sauce, does not like to have his picture taken. For as long as I’ve known him, and as far back as his childhood memories reach. He says it’s because he’s a “private person” — so he probably doesn’t appreciate me blogging about it, whoops! — and he doesn’t like to be the center of attention.

As you’d expect, this poses a problem pertaining to our wedding, i.e. the most photographed day of our lives. So before we ended up with a photo album full of shots of a bride without a groom, we needed to tackle the issue head on, to throw him into the belly of the beast and work through his fears with a little immersion therapy. We did an engagement shoot … in public.

© Matt McDonough, 2011

One of my luckiest breaks, when it comes to our wedding, is that I work at MTV, a veritable treasure trove of creative talent. Every day, I’m surrounded by writers, graphic designers, web developers, photographers, music editors and videographers. And you bet your bottom dollar that when it came to time to cast the talent for our wedding, I called in some favors. Enter my friends Matt and Sahara, photographers extraordinaire, and the coolest people you will ever meet.

For our engagement shoot, we decided to head to the world-famous Coney Island, a location that not only has special meaning to Apple Sauce and me (we’ve spent many a summer laid out on the beach and riding the Cyclone), but also boasts a range of colorful, interesting backdrops.

We decided we’d meet the photographers in Union Square, do some test shots, hop on the subway, take some additional “love train” shots, and then descend on the boardwalk. This would give Apple Sauce a chance to get to know Matt and Sahara and warm up a little bit before we hit our prime location.

It worked. Our subway car got emptier and emptier as we got closer to the beach, so the worst of it — in terms of how many people were looking at us — was over by the time we arrived. And then Apple Sauce realized, it wasn’t so bad after all. We were in this together.

© Matt McDonough, 2011

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5 Responses to “Engagement Photos: Getting A Camera-Shy Groom In Front Of The Camera”

  1. Magnolia Bud Says:

    You two look so cute… and I love how your personality shines through the photos! What a great setting for e-pics!

    My groom is also camera-shy. Our e-pics turned out all right, with a handful of really amazing shots, but still, Mr. Magnolia has an “awkward camera face” LOL. I’m keeping my fingers crossed for the wedding!

  2. Orchid Bud Says:

    I love that dress!

    Orchid Boy also avoids the camera, though with him its more of a vanity thing, which I completely understand. But, I’m still willing to take pictures. We didn’t do an e-session because our photog is in NY and we are in NC. We considered doing e-pictures, but opted to spend the money on a second shooter instead. I guess we’ll see how it goes.

  3. Freesia Bud Says:

    “Apple Sauce”–I love it! :)

    Thank you for the camera tips, definitely going to try that with Freesia Dude! We’ve been engaged 7 months and have no engagement photos. Even when we go on vacation, he loves taking pictures…but not being in them! Maybe we can turn it all around!

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  5. Ron Says:

    I glad you wrote this. I have passed the link to this for a couple of my brides. They are in the same situation of having a very shy Groom.

    I believe that the engagement photos are important for everyone to get comfortable with each other. I have started calling the engagement session a Practice Session because it is so important.

    Thanks Ron