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Lilac Blossom

The Weddings I Haven’t Attended

September 9th, 2010 by     

Ever since becoming engaged I’ve noticed that a lot of people like to tell me about weddings.

When my good friend sent me a picture of the beautiful cake at a wedding she attended, I felt like I had a double standard. I wanted to see the cake, I liked that she thought of me, and I enjoyed listening to her tell me about the wedding. When Lilac Dude handed me a fan program that his family’s neighbor brought over for us I got a little annoyed. She wanted to show us something that she thought was a neat idea, just in case it was something we’d be interested in. Fans are not a new idea, duh I’m a bride I already know about fan programs.

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Then it dawned on me. It’s not that people are sharing wedding things with us that annoys me, it’s who. Everyone wants to help us, they want us to get ideas from other couples’ weddings.

Sometimes I get overwhelmed with the ideas that people are sharing with me, and I wonder if they expect to see the same things at our wedding that they see at other weddings.


4 Responses to “The Weddings I Haven’t Attended”

  1. Lavender Blossom Says:

    Lilac, I had the same problem. Whenever certain people gave me an idea I felt like they were butting in where they weren’t supposed to. It especially annoyed me when people would bring me things from other people’s weddings – I felt like asking them, ‘why would I want to directly copy someone else’s wedding you just went to?’ It’s a fine line between being grateful that people want to help you but also wanting to do it yourself – because your wedding should be an expression of you and Lilac Dude – not what’s “in” or trending at the time. :)

  2. Lala Says:

    Take the suggestions with a smile. People are only trying to help. Some people are giving unneeded advice, but who knows? Maybe your wedding is the only good news they have heard in a while, just think maybe you brighten their day when they get to share a suggestion. Good news is, it’s your wedding & you can do what you like, no one expects it to be a certain way, and if they do they are going to your wedding for the wrong reason. Enjoy planning your day, and enjoy the attention :)

  3. Sunflower Bud Says:

    People keep doing the same thing to me as well. I think that you just have to take it with a grain of salt and move on. They want to help and are trying but you have your own visions and inspirations to work from. I just take what they give me (favor boxes, programs, etc.) and put it in with my wedding stuff for future inspiration if I want. If I don’t think it’ll work with my theme, I just throw it away. They’ll never know the difference 😉

  4. Kate Says:

    Does anyone know what website the above wedding program fans are from?

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