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Whats your Bridal Confession? |
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June 10th, 2010 by Moon Blossom
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I think I changed my mind back and forth three times whether or not I would write this post. I guess you are catching me in my more spunky moods! Every bride has some “thing” that is often seen in weddings that bothers her. Whether it be an up and coming trend in the wedding industry that you don’t like, or whether its a commonly accepted tradition that you just don’t accept, every bride has (at least) one “thing” that they have strong feelings against. Something that when they see it, their skin crawls just a little. Now, my hope is that after sharing mine, you wont hate me (even if you don’t agree with me), but will know exactly what I’m talking about and make me feel much less horrible by sharing yours. So are you ready for my confession?
Selective Color!
I don’t know why, but I really dislike photographs with selective color. In fact I spent way too long trying to find a good example of it that I knew wouldn’t offend anyone. In the end, to prevent any hard feelings, I photoshopped my own photo of myself (yes that’s me!) to exemplify the very technique I dislike. Apparently this is a VERY commonly requested edit among photographers, and many Brides love it, but not me. And to each his own! If you like it go for it. But for the record, I guarantee you a selective color photograph will not make it into any one of my wedding albums!
So now its your turn, what wedding “thing” is just not for you. I promise, even if i’m doing it, I wont be offended! :-]
(BONUS: Can anyone guess the reason behind the photo of me taken above?)
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Categories: Wedding Planning |
13 Comments |
June 10th, 2010 at 4:43 pm
I think selective color photos are beautiful…. in artistic photography. But I’m not a fan of it in wedding photography. My biggest wedding thing that I feel strongly about are the pictures of brides where they are supposed to look contemplative or extremely serious. I see no happiness in those photos, I think in wedding pictures that bride should look happy!
June 10th, 2010 at 4:53 pm
I’m really hugely not a fan of veils.
Yep, I said it. Can’t stand the things. I mean, they look gorg in some photos, but really, they’re just one more thing to adjust and worry about.
I’m getting married with a small birdcage veil if I do a veil at all.
June 10th, 2010 at 4:56 pm
I don’t like anything a bride talks herself into needing then spends way too much money on. For example, a bride I saw writing a blog ended up convincing herself that it was a GREAT idea for her guests to toss those little fuzzy balls you get at the craft store at her and her groom as they departed.
June 10th, 2010 at 4:57 pm
I can’t stand selective color either! Oh, I have so many…so so many…dark makeup….kitchy, Rocky-Horror-Picture-Style wedding gowns….don’t worry! You are NOT alone.
June 10th, 2010 at 9:40 pm
I don’t really like selective color photos either. I think that they can be tasteful and appropriate sometimes, but they definitely are not my favorite.
The thing that EVERYTHING in the wedding industry is soooooo expensive. AND that the venues and people that do services hike up their prices for weddings. I was talking with a girlfriend that is getting married and she had met a DJ at a party or something and the price for the party was between $400-600 but when mentioned wedding and booking him for that, his price automatically went up to like $1200!! RIDICULOUS!! Things are too expensive. I know they have to make a living as well, but you mention wedding and everything gets ten times more expensive. Not cool for those of us that are paying for the wedding ourselves with no help from family.
June 10th, 2010 at 10:29 pm
I really don’t care for the bouquet or garter toss traditions. I actually think they’re kind of silly (no offense to anyone who plans on doing either at their wedding…just my opinion). I’ve been to lots of weddings and no one ever seems genuinely excited about being called to the dance floor to catch the bouquet or the garter. Needless to say, I definitely do not plan on “tossing” anything at my wedding.
June 11th, 2010 at 12:35 am
Oh, you are much less cranky about wedding things than I am! Some wedding things I hate:
1. Changing last names.
2. Father giving the bride away. Why only the father, not the mother? And why only the bride, not the groom?
3. Tossing bouquets or garters.
4. Large wedding parties. You may need one person up there for the bride and one for the groom, just to handle stuff like holding the rings or holding the bouquet for the bride. But why do you need a cast of thousands?
5. Engagement rings. Why are women assumed to need an ever-present reminder of being “taken,” while men do not? Conversely, why can a woman be considered engaged if she merely says “yes,” while a man is expected to produce an expensive ring in order to be engaged?
6. Formal proposals. Why is the woman expected to sit around “waiting,” instead of just asking him?
7. Large guest lists. Who really has 350 people they consider close to them?
8. Rigid lists of what “must” happen at a wedding, whether it is the wearing of a white dress or having an open bar.
9. Inability to think beyond gender-specific roles. Why can’t a mother escort the bride, or a man take on the duties of a maid of honor?
10. The whole idea that a wedding is something you look forward to your whole life, and just has to be perfect. Being married to someone you love is important. How you got to that point–whether with a JOP ceremony at the courthouse, or a big church wedding–is pretty trivial in the grand scheme of things.
June 11th, 2010 at 8:06 am
There are many good points in the comments. Selective color is ok, but my brides love it so I will still do it. The garter and bouqet toss, that is something I can’t stand. Nothing let letting the world know you’re single especially if you are a little older. the thing that I hate the most is the receiving line. Dear lord, those eat up 30-45 minutes. Every couple wants to have great photos and unless it is planned for int he timeline, it eats up a lot of time to get photos. then it encourages guests to hang around and makes it really difficult to get photos done.
June 11th, 2010 at 10:24 am
I hate those pictures of the bride and “her girls” (a term i hate as well) posed like the Charlie’s Angels, with fake finger guns. This dreaded pose extends beyond weddings to really any time a group of women takes a picture together. I hate them all! And don’t even get me started on favors. Why would I want your wedding crap around my house?!? If I can’t eat it while waiting for dinner, I don’t want it.
June 11th, 2010 at 11:18 am
2nd bride -
I feel ya! I actually plan on having a “man of honor” – my best friend from forever just so happens to be a boy, and I refuse to stick to “tradition”. He’ll be giving me away with my parents… I wouldn’t have it any other way!
June 11th, 2010 at 11:27 am
Hahaha! I agree that the selective color thing is a little overdone in wedding pictures. Pick either color or b/w…not both! I’m not a fan of the “Dollar Dance.” It’s where all the guests line up and pay a dollar to dance with the bride and groom. It’s a big thing in my small hometown and it makes me absolutely cringe.
June 11th, 2010 at 5:17 pm
For me it’s the increasingly present wedding “logo”. Usually a combination of the names or symbol. I don’t mind it for a place here and there, but hate when it gets plastered all over the wedding on every nook and cranny– especially the dance floor logo spotlight. And…don’t flame me here ladies… I think we have to move past the days of matchy-matchy bridesmaid dresses. A coordinating variety is so much more interesting to look at and let the girls choose the fit that works best for them. Why make your most treasured guests (so treasured they’re standing up for you) the least comfortable?
November 1st, 2010 at 6:17 pm
I grew up in California, then moved to Utah. I am a Mormon, yes. And I hate hate hate hate traditional Utah Mormon Weddings. We get married in our temples, but they’re very sacred and holy, so only those who have been through the proper ceremonies in our religion are allowed to go. That’s not what bothers me. I understand the importance of this religious tradition.
It’s what comes after.
1-They always have a luncheon afterwards for the family and friends. It’s casual, and every person has to stand up, introduce themselves and give advice. And the food is ususally crap.
2- receptions are normally held in the church cultural hall (the gym essentially, because it’s free.) It seems like they invite everyone they know, even the people the bride and groom aren’t close to. People from their parent’s church, work, anything you can think of. People get invited.
3- The decorations are always cheesy, cheap, and the refreshments are usually cheap and quick. Cream puffs. Brownies. Lemonade. Mints. Chicken salad in croissants.
4- THEY ALWAYS HAVE A LINE! The bride and groom and their parents and wedding party stand in a line the whole reception and greet people as they come in. The people come in, Get some of the cheap refreshments, and leave. That’s a mormon reception. And I will not follow that crappy tradition. I will not have a line. i will celebrate with my close friends and family only, and we will eat because I love glorious food.