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The Breakdown |
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October 28th, 2009 by Gardenia Bud
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Well… It happened. Around 3 weeks and 4 days into my engagement, I lost it! People warned me, people warned Gardenia Dude, but I’m not sure anyone could have prepared us for The Breakdown! Yes, there have been tremors, but last Monday was the big one!!
I’ve heard time and time again that as great as engagement is, its also a very difficult time. Trying to balance everyone’s wants and needs with reality is not easy. For some reason, the pressure of looking for venues, picking a date, and trying to get everyone on board caught up to me last Monday. My dear Gardenia Dude, who just started a fantastic new job, has been impossible to get an answer from. Between proving himself at a new company and nightly MBA classes, he is pretty difficult to track down. Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not blaming him, but just trying to explain the factors contributing to The Breakdown.
With an MIA fiance, its quite difficult to make big wedding decisions. Its his wedding also, therefore before I do anything or make any decisions, I want his input. Without being able to get a response via email during the day or see him in the evenings, this has been almost impossible. To make matters worse, his latest joke is that we’ll be finished wedding planning within the first month of our engagement because of my preparedness. Needless to say, I don’t find it too funny…
So, the MIA fiance combined with parents who live 5 hours away, who have no concept for things in D.C. except that they are expensive, who are planning another wedding, and who have their own everyday issues made for one emotional, attention-seeking bride! So, what did I do? I threw my toys. In my defense, I felt pretty helpless – but ever since, I’ve been 100 times better. Its amazing what a good tantrum can do. Since then, we’ve been able to almost finalize the venue, the church, and the date. So, while I do not recommend such a breakdown to all brides, I will say that maybe toddlers have the right idea – a good tantrum is not only cathartic, but it really gets people’s attention!!
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Categories: Wedding Planning, Wedding Stress |
2 Comments |
October 28th, 2009 at 5:07 pm
Oh sweetie – I feel your pain! I’ve been there…just remember that you are not alone. :^) We are all entitled to have our moment(s).
October 29th, 2009 at 8:10 pm
I went through a very similar situation when were planning our wedding – my husband was student teaching and planning a solo art show trying to complete all his senior requirements and hold down a full time job. I on the other hand was trying to juggle the never ending demands of his mother and trying desperately to not lose it. I had one large break down about 2 months before the wedding over the guest list and again 2 days before the ceremony when his mother was admitted into the hospital and the 23 months we’d spent planning seemed like they were going to be for nothing. Through it all the only thing you can do is remember you are doing this because you love him and what’s important in the end is you are going to be husband and wife.