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There is No I in Team |
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January 12th, 2009 by BridalBuds
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After the ‘honeymoon phase’ was over, Poppy Dude and I settled into married life: he went to work, I went to law school, he ate dinner while watching tv, I ate dinner while studying. Romantic bliss, huh? With two and a half years of school remaining, I could no longer take living a separate life from my husband.
At Sandals in Jamaica
In stead of complaining or wallowing in self-pity, I took action. Inspired by an episode of John and Kate Plus Eight where the Gosselins made a family mission statement, I decided we needed to make an effort to act more like a team.
Step 1: Create a Team Name
Piece of cake. Since I didn’t take Poppy Dude’s last name when we married (because mine is so awesome!), we have an inside joke where we call each other Banchez, which is a mix of both our last names. So say hello to Team Banchez.
Step 2: Define Your Team Goals and Objectives
We sat and talked about our needs and expectations in respect to our relationship. What did we want to work on, what did we want to maintain? I actually typed ours up and hung it on our wall.
Step 3: Work Toward Them on a Daily Basis
It’s easy to say what you want to do, but harder to actually do it. You are trying to change things like your lifestyle and your knee jerk reactions…no easy task! The best thing about working as a team is when one slips, the other motivates. By working together, you can rely on your partner to help build a stronger relationship.
Go Team Banchez!
Have you expressly discussed the idea of teamwork with your fiance or hubby? (By the way, when I first brought it up Poppy Dude rolled his eyes at me, but he was a good sport and really got into it in the end!)
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Categories: Archived, Etiquette + Advice, Married Life |
1 Comment |
January 13th, 2009 at 11:15 am
Actually that is one of the first things we did when we moved in together. I have an eight year old son so it was very important to decide to either be a team or not… if not then why marry??? In my opinion it just adds more greatness to our relationship. It is nice to know that when I falter there he is to pick me up and believe it or not it works for me to him too… Just wanted to say that I think it is an excellent idea to do.