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Cash or Presents – Which is Good Etiquette? |
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December 20th, 2008 by BridalBuds
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I nearly killed my brain thinking of how to let people know that we preferred money over presents…. I did not want to put it on my invitations because I thought that would be tacky! But I also didn’t want to tell them “oh, we just want cash” when they asked 
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We already have a house, full of stuff that you’d usually put on a bridal registry…. and besides that, our wedding will be held in Cartagena, Colombia…. most of our guests would be bringing presents to the wedding which would then be very hard to carry back to the US. I created a registry through MyWishList. that allows you to add items from different websites, instead of being locked into a single store registry…. and although we’ve added a few things there we really cannot come up with much we need, besides money.
So the great news is that a month ago or so I came across this wonderful site called Our Wishing Well. It is absolutely fantastic! You get to add items to your registry and your guests can then donate towards a specific item instead of buying the item for you. This is a good way of asking for cash but also letting them feel like they’re actually helping you towards a little “something” instead of just money in the air!
On our wedding website, I have a link for gift registry and it says the following:
“We would prefer your presence over presents but for those of you who desire to help we have created this special wishing well where you can contribute towards our future, this is our first preference: www.ourwishingwell.com/registries/view/55800524
But for those of you who wish to give a gift, here’s our gift registry:
www.wishlist.com/erikandcaro”
I think this is “kosher” enough…. what do you think? I would also like ideas on stuff to add to a registry if you’ve already got all the basic items you need (a house, utensils, dishes, etc….)
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Categories: Archived, Etiquette + Advice, Gifts & Favors |
7 Comments |
December 20th, 2008 at 7:15 pm
That’s a great option. And you worded it very well. Wishpot also has the option for guests to contribute instead of buying the whole item. The words “Wishing well” however fits perfectly into the paragraph.
December 22nd, 2008 at 9:30 am
Great post. My fiance and I felt ourselves grappling with the fact that we only wanted to receive cash and used http://www.myregistry.com to make cash gift funds with cute titles that our guests can contribute to. Have not announced the registry yet and just love how you’ve subtly announced it on your wedding website. So nicely put together, I will definitely try to do something like this.
Thanks alot!
December 22nd, 2008 at 3:15 pm
We also used OurWishingWell.com and were very happy with it
December 26th, 2008 at 3:09 pm
I’d never heard of such a thing before, but am impressed. My fiance and I have been together for 6 years already, so naturally own most of the household items. What we haven’t managed to do is take an overseas vacation. We’d really apprecriate money to go to his relative’s place in Greece for our honeymoon. This wishing well might be a way to do it. Thanks!
December 28th, 2008 at 11:36 pm
I love it! Are there any fees for using the wishing well?
December 30th, 2008 at 3:24 pm
What a great idea! It seems that there is so much written on wedding guest etiquette that bridal etiquette is often overlooked.
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December 31st, 2008 at 8:25 pm
It’s really easy to let people know what you want for your wedding…AND that doesn’t mean you have to put it on your wedding invitations. Posting a link on your online wedding website to your gift registry or telling your guest on your wedding website is very appropriate. Many of the guest will appreciate you telling them what they want, because it takes the guess work out of gift giving.
-Timothy